Sunday, March 21, 2010

Privatley Mediate

An option to avoid the scrutiny that a Divorce for instance between Sandra Bullock and Jesse James would cause is Private Mediation. It can work for them it could work for you. Terry Bankert is a Flint Divorce Lawyer is also a certified, practicing Family Court Mediator.

Consider privately Mediating instead of Publicly Litigating.
High asset divorces are easy to settle. Just ask the King of All Media, Howard Stern.[1]
There are not many people in the world with the kind of money and fame that Howard Stern enjoys and yet when he and his wife divorced, they used divorce mediation. He is not just the King of All Media, he is the king of peaceful and fair divorce. There must have been a chorus of voices urging him to hire the most aggressive divorce lawyer in town so that he could protect his assets and yet he knew the best way to keep the most money was to avoid divorce lawyers. He and his wife Allison had a discrete, fast and fair divorce because they chose not to make it a media circus by engaging in divorce mediation rather than litigation. [1]
TRY MEDIATION, IF HOWARD STERN CAN DO IT YOU CAN TOO.
The mediation usually begins with a joint session in which each party is encouraged to present a brief statement of its case and reasons for its position. Clients are encouraged to talk and to vent their concerns. Brainstorming of solutions and suggestions for resolution are often exchanged. It is not intended to be a confrontational or argumentative session. It is an opportunity for the parties and counsel to address each other to hear their respective positions. The mediator’s role is to facilitate this discussion, to ask thought-provoking and clarifying questions, and to aid the parties in narrowing the issues in the dispute. There may also be a joint discussion and review of all of the possible settlement options.ing strengths and weaknesses and risks and rewards of avoiding, commencing and/or remaining in the litigation process.
There is usually a narrowing of issues during these private sessions. It is also the time when many new issues rise to the surface. Underlying concerns or issues not previously revealed in the joint session are identified and evaluated. The mediator may shuttle from party to party, discussing issues and engaging in reality testing of a party’s particular positions. Generally, discussions center on potential weaknesses of a particular legal argument, the costs of litigation, the potential negative publicity, the emotional value of closure if settlement is reached, and the best and worst alternatives to a negotiated settlement.
Whether through use of joint session or caucus, settlement offers are usually exchanged in a series of offers and counteroffers in an effort to reach full and final resolution. Sometimes they are exchanged in joint sessions; in other cases, the mediator works with each party and counsel on the offer and counteroffers in a series of separate caucuses. Offers can be drafted and composed by a party with or without the suggestion or input of the mediator. The whole point of the exercise is to assist each party in stepping back, reevaluating positions, and exploring the benefits and risks of settlement.
Mediation is useful where confidentiality of result and process is important. It is particularly helpful when an ongoing relationship between parties is worth preserving (e.g., in family,)It provides a risk-free forum for risk-averse parties and eliminates the uncertainties of a court-controlled outcome. It is useful in highly emotional cases in which parties need to express emotions or when communications have broken down.

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[1]
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/belinda-etezad-rachman/why-sandra-bullock-and-je_b_506730.html

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Mediation

Just think about all the time you spend meeting, courting, getting to know your spouse.The investment of time and energy in meeting family and friends. The emotional investment in planning and performing the marriage. The dreams of stability and family. We expect marriage to be permanent. Divorce changes everything our relationships with children , family and friends. Divorcing or saying to your self you want to Dump My Souse (dumpmyspouse) is the beginning of a new path in your life.ENDING A MARRIAGEDivorce may bet the only option. But unless it is simply and uncontested this ending of romance and partnership will emotionally impact both spouses.Divorce is the process of getting into court to end a partnership. Divorcing is an emotional process of healing and building your self up emotionally.WHO IS TERRY BANKERT?Our marking though these key words and concepts allows us to bring a message to you.Terry Bankert is a Flint Divorce Lawyer attorney. His practice issues involve Child custody, child support, fathers and mothers parenting times. The parents should attempt to cooperate. He is described as a Flint attorney, Genesee County lawyer, Clio attorney, Burton lawyer, Davidson attorney, Flushing lawyer, military divorce attorney, Flint lawyer, Michigan attorney, Flint alimony, Flint fathers rights, Flint mothers rights.Often the emotions of the parents takes the emotional hurt to the children. Please do all you can to keep your hurt from the children. Bankert also represents parents in several other issue areas. They are; Flint grandparents rights, Flint paternity attorney ,Flint Child visitation Lawyer, Bankert is a Flint spousal support attorney , one of the Flint lawyers, or Flint attorneys, he handles Flint guardianship,he prectices exclusively in Flint family court.Often people in divorce only look at their own emotions. We should also consider , Flint childrens rights, and Flint parents rights.There are ways to settle your issues privately through Flint mediation and Flint collaborative law. Once an order is entered you may need help getting what is yours. You can ask for Flint child support collection, Flint divorce judgement enforcement, and Flint judgement changes. Some divorces have few issues not resolved by the parties. You may have a Flint uncontested divorce , and you may agree on Flint child support payment. Call and ask about Flint simple divorce, at our Flint Law Firm, law.Bankert practices Law in the court rooms of Judge Duncan Beagle, Judge Michael Theile, Judge David Newblatt, Judge John Gadola, Judge Robert E. Weiss. Terry Bankert can be found by googling his name terrybankert or , attorneybankert , Bankert can also be found at the internet sites, findlaw, lawyers com, dumpmyspouse, terrybankert blogspot.The Emotional Process of DivorceMany feel a predictable range of emotions through the divorce process. These emotions range from denial, rage, futility, rebuilding, hope and building for the future.You attorney will tell you the process stages of divorce. But what are the emotional stages? Know you are not alone. 50% of the population divorces. It may help for you to know the emotional stages of divorce and how most people emotionally react. What then are the emotional steps of divorce?GENERALLY1.facing the reality of the divorce2.working through painful feelings3.experiencing the full range of emotions associated with the breakdown of a marriage4.coping with the situational and lifestyle changes resulting from loss5.adapting to the change, and reconfiguring lifeA."Shock and Disbelief" begins as soon as the idea of a separation and divorce is introduced and sinks in. It involves four major tasks and issues to be worked through.Facing realitySelf esteem and inadequacyTelling the worldSupport and helpB. "Initial Adjustment" involves the ability of people to actively adapt to this new phase of their lives. The primary goal of this stage is adaptation and mustering the personal resources needed to manage the many emotional and practical changes faced by people during this phase of their divorce work, and tasks include:Functioning and responsibilityPractical realityLegal MattersManaging emotionsC. "Active Re-organization" centers around how people live their lives and cope with the tasks of being suddenly single. Major tasks to be dealt with and worked through include:Managing life style and practical affairsRe-defining relationshipsReconstructing personal values and beliefsConcluding legal proceduresD. "Life Re-formation" represents the final steps as readers pass through to the "other" side of their divorce. During this stage people deal with the emotional issues and life choices involved as they move on with their lives.Constructing relationshipsNew interestsPersonal responsibilityAccepting your new lifeSO HOW DO YOU HANDLE DIVORCE" Shock and disbelief typically passes the most quickly. It's the quick hit, and sometimes numbing shock wave, as people realize their marriage is over. Follow your heart, create a support group but be concerned about your children. Your "Initial Adjustment" and " Active Re-organization" are the most active times for you this includes the legal divorce process active legal, practical, and emotional changes in your life. The final process " life Re - formation" stage represents that time in life during which husband and wife are moving far away from their divorce, and into their new life. This time has no formal "end," and is marked by the full acceptance of the divorce and a resolution of most of the practical issues and many of the emotional.You are not in this alone.SourceRich,Phil Ed.D., MSW athttp://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/divorce/fourstages.htmlWomans Divorcehttp://www.womansdivorce.com/healing.htmlHealing from Divorcehttp://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/rhonda_findling/healing-from-divorce.htm

Monday, September 22, 2008

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